Harmonious, happy relationships are impossible without constant spiritual growth, work on oneself.
Of course, in love it is not always possible to do without quarrels: disagreements even occur in couples where partners simply adore each other and have a lot of respect.
The main thing is to be able to interact with each other and compromise.
Consider the 10 secrets of a harmonious relationship between men and women, which will allow you to effectively deal with most of the problems that arise.
10. Be patient, but know the measure
Patience is very important in a love relationship, but in no case should it be unlimited.
To decide whether to endure further, understand whether your partner is behaving appropriately. Do his good intentions remain only words, does he seek to somehow change the circumstances, and so on.
Each person’s life is unique, and there is no point in wasting it on empty promises and illusions. If the beloved does not at all seek compromises, it is very likely that it is time to part with him.
9. Trust the wisdom of the inner voice
When problems arise in a relationship, perhaps in some cases you should seek the advice of relatives and reliable friends.
However, there are situations when it is better to think it over all alone and trust your inner voice.
All people have their own opinions, besides, unfortunately, there are frequent cases when relatives or friends envy the happiness of lovers and dream that they disperse as soon as possible. In such situations, advisers usually recommend just such a way out of the situation.
It's great if you fully trust the people in your environment, but few can boast of it.
8. Never encourage bad habits
Psychology explains why a person behaves in one way or another, but it should not justify it. If your partner has any bad habits that do not suit you, do not try to show him that you love absolutely everything in him - even craving for alcohol and smoking. Feel free to express your displeasure.
If the beloved does not react at all to indignation and continues to behave in the usual way, this says a lot about the person and his feelings for you.
7. Define the limits
Relations more often end not from clarification of relations, but from constant silence. Often a person “bites his tongue” and practically does not tell his partner what causes his discontent.
Naturally, in this case, the other half will not even realize that you do not like something. Unspoken claims will accumulate, and then there will be an explosion of emotions, which will completely discourage the partner.
To avoid such situations, determine the boundaries of what is permitted and discuss unpleasant situations immediately, without waiting for a breakdown.
6. Take care of your own interests
Adults must take care of their own needs and work on the fulfillment of their desires. You should not take it all into your soulmate and arrange drama due to failure.
Take it easy if a person wants to devote time to his problems, not yours. In this case, you can turn to relatives or friends for help.
Of course, the partner should not think only about himself all the time: this will already be a sign of unhealthy egoism.
5. Work to increase self-esteem
Only a person can determine his self-esteem. Many people (especially the fair sex) are very dependent on the mood and whims of their lovers. In the end, it turns out that in a relationship they quickly lose their self-esteem, spiritual strength.
Self-esteem should be high even in cases where the partner criticizes, scolds or threatens to leave you. You must not allow other people to manipulate you.
4. Learn happiness "solo"
Happiness is not an optimal set of circumstances, work or relationships. It always depends on the people themselves: you should not wait for someone to give it to you, suddenly fill your life with meaning.
Successful people seem to always exude vitality, they have some kind of inner light. Such a person considers himself happy in bad days or even in very difficult periods of his life.
To become happy in a relationship, first of all, learn to be in harmony with yourself, to radiate optimism.
3. Give your partner freedom
Partners, spouses, by no means in all cases are one. People usually require personal space, as well as emotional, physical freedom.
Psychologists believe that it is impossible to deal with the problems received in childhood with constant monitoring, pressure from the partner, spouse. This kind of relationship behavior is very depressing and quickly begins to annoy.
So, if a lover asks for a little freedom, personal space, there is no reason to refuse him. Try not to interfere in the partner’s business affairs, do not follow him on social networks. Beloved will be very grateful to you for this. Remember that the main thing in a relationship is trust.
2. Improve your own psychology
Many behave completely wrong during quarrels with their soul mate. Make sure your behavior is emotionally mature.
Control emotions, do not let them turn into a stream that blows everything in its path, but do not hammer them deep inside, from time to time give them a way out.
If you have any psychological problems, it is better to spare yourself, your partner and seek the help of an experienced specialist.
1. Accept the conflict as a normal stage of the relationship
Perfect relationships are only in Hollywood films.
Absolutely everyone quarrels. Do not end the relationship immediately after any difficulties.
It makes sense to take such a step only when the problems are very serious: for example, if one of the partners is addicted to alcohol or drugs, begins to use physical force and so on.