Decent girl. Below is a list of men's proposals that a decent girl should never agree to.
10. Civil marriage
Civil marriage is a rather dubious proposition. When a man loves and appreciates his chosen one, he offers her an official relationship. “Living together” is often offered when they are not confident in their feelings. It’s convenient for a man - a beloved woman nearby, order at home, food, sex again. But he sees himself free. The girl is waiting and hoping for a real marriage proposal. She already considers herself married, plans to repair the apartment and selects names for future children. In most cases, a man does not marry, but rather leaves, satiated with life. He “rehearsed” his family life; he did not like it. Therefore, do not agree to such an offer. Every woman should have a sense of dignity, no need to exchange for little things. Either the man marries, or the candy-bouquet stage continues until he decides that he is ready for a serious step.
9. Let someone else into your relationship
If the third, most likely girl, has appeared in your relationship, run away from him without hesitation. Some lose their heads from love so much that they agree to the presence of a mistress. They close their eyes to this, swallow tears and are silent. If only the beloved was near. Well, how should one not respect oneself? A decent girl will never allow this. If your man runs to the side, nothing can be glued. And if you forgive him, then it can happen again. It is better to endure, suffer, but not lose your "I" in a relationship.
8. Quit work for him
Your beloved gently hints all the time that it would be better for you to do the house. Even if you like the thought, think a hundred times. After several years of sitting at home, you will realize that this was not a good idea. You will hate your husband for not having your own business, you have not built a career, and the success of your friends is envy. And a man will become bored with you. Talking about the house will begin to bore him. The financial side of the issue is also not in last place. After 10 years, he will begin to reproach you with the fact that he works day and night, and you do nothing. There are many cases where the wives of wealthy men were left with nothing. Without a profession, without work experience, they are no longer at a young age forced to live on the handouts of their ex-husband, beg for content or start a career from the very beginning.
7. Living with parents
This sentence may seem rational. Very convenient - no need to pay for the apartment. That's just the relationship is not good. It makes no difference whose parents, but they will try to fit into your life, will give advice, try to help. All this will negatively affect your feelings. If your parents are opposed to you or your chosen one, then you will have to spend much more nerves. Therefore, if you care about relationships, do not agree. Do not spare money, rent an apartment. So your feelings and nerves will be safe.
6. Sex before marriage
Now few people adhere to such a position. This is often argued by the fact that incompatibility may occur. In fact, people have forgotten how to build normal relationships without sex. The girl, surrendering to the guy, gives him not only her body, but also a piece of the soul. Of course, if it's a decent girl. For a man, it’s just a pleasure. Having received it, he will not even think about marrying. Therefore, the girl should think carefully before making such a rash step. If a man loves, he will wait.
5. Be a leader in a relationship
A decent girl knows her worth; she will not allow a disrespectful attitude to herself, but she will never agree to rule a man. In a relationship, the main thing should always be him. A real man solves problems, provides a family, he is a support for his beloved. But this does not mean that everything needs to be blamed on him. An ideal option would be partnerships, where each performs its functions, where a man and woman love and support each other. So do not seek to take power from your man, let him feel that he is a leader in a relationship.
4. Pay for yourself
It is considered quite commonplace when a man pays for a woman. But a decent girl should not allow herself such a thing. Of course, if you have been together for a long time and the relationship is serious, then you can let him do it. But when a girl allows an unfamiliar man to pay for her, she puts herself in an awkward situation. He may have thoughts that she owes him something. To avoid this, it is better to pay yourself. If you are short of money, do not accept invitations. And if you decide to go at his expense, then limit yourself to a cup of coffee, do not order expensive food and drinks.
3. shut up
If a man invites you to shut up, then something has definitely gone wrong in your relationship. When he allows himself to treat a girl like that, he shows his disrespect for her. With such a relationship is not worth developing. Even if he later apologizes, it is not a fact that this will not happen again. The situation is even worse if, at this moment, you were not alone. Of course, there are various circumstances. If you yourself have brought a man to white heat, then maybe it is worth listening to his wishes.
2. Choose a gift for yourself
When a man invites a woman to choose a gift for herself, this can be interpreted as: “I have no time to deal with you and such stupid things. Here is money for you, buy whatever you think is necessary. ” Most women will jump for joy, but not a decent girl. She will not be allowed to do so with self-esteem. She will not take anything from an unfamiliar man. Moreover, he simply decided to pay off with money, which means that he does not care about her at all. A decent girl will also not be able to accept an expensive gift, her moral principles do not allow her to do this.
1. Spend all the money
A man under the influence of feelings is capable of reckless actions. If he offers to spend all his money, a decent girl will never agree. She will not take a penny, even if she gets into a difficult situation. Well, if there is absolutely no way out, then she will definitely return them. This is a very easy way to calculate a person who is greedy for other people's money, because such people can also pretend to be decent. Men often resort to this method. In general, it is better to rely only on yourself. A decent person accepts help, gifts and money only from loved ones, otherwise she feels obligated.
So a decent girl with men should behave. If she really possesses such a quality, it will not be difficult for her to do so. The pretender will betray herself sooner or later. So, if you are not a decent girl, but would like to become her, you will not only have to follow the rules, but completely change your mindset.