The fairy tale "Cinderella" is one of the most beloved among little girls. Although to be honest, many adult women are still impressed by this tale.
A beautiful story, where good conquers evil, and everyone gets what they deserve, has nothing to do with real life. But some stereotypes can be firmly entrenched in the minds of little dreamers.
Few of the parents think that Cinderella can have a negative impact on the formation of the girl’s character. She will again and again indulge in illusions, perceive the world differently from what it really is.
We do not urge you to act radically, even though this book will continue to occupy an honorable place in the children's library, but when reading it is not worth focusing on some details.
Parents themselves sometimes form a wrong perception of reality in a child, they say: “Cinderella worked hard, behaved modestly, and the prince fell in love with her.”
This article will help you understand what situations you should not focus on. Below are 10 girls' illusions associated with the Cinderella fairy tale.
10. You can not notice problems and not respond to mockery
Cinderella was unlucky, her mother died early, and her father married another woman. The stepmother and her two daughters constantly mocked the poor girl, she put up with everything. Such a sad beginning of a fairy tale. And immediately it becomes clear that Cinderella is good, and stepmother and sisters are bad.
Little readers can “adopt” Cinderella’s methods. You just need to endure all the bullying, ignore the problem, everything will work out, of course.
Subsequently, the girl who was reading this tale will not be able to fend for herself, for her, this behavior will become the norm.
Cinderella could fight back her stepmother, talk with her father, but she did not, so it is unlikely her little fans will act differently.
9. Happiness lies in status and wealth
When reading a fairy tale, one gets the feeling that happiness is impossible without status and wealth. If you look at what is happening in the world now, you might think that many generations were brought up on Cinderella.
Material values now come first for many. Money and status are, of course, good, but happiness is not at all in this. Health, communication with loved ones, mutual love are valued much more than anything else.
The next time you discuss this tale with your daughter, explain to her that money is not a guarantee of happiness. Not all rich people are happy.
8. If he loves - he will find
Cinderella met the prince, he fell in love and is now looking for her throughout the kingdom. The girl begins to think that this is how real men behave. That's only in real life such princes can be counted on the fingers. Not the fact that one of them will fall in love with your daughter.
To become happy, you do not need to sit back like Cinderella. Otherwise, it may happen that you have to spend all your life waiting for the prince.
In the real world, if a woman leaves a man, he is unlikely to rush after her. He will think that she has made a decision and will not bother her anymore. He does not know that his beloved decided to test his feelings and play Cinderella.
7. In an expensive and beautiful dress you are the center of the world
Another statement from the tale, which, incidentally, works well. Of course, if a young lady comes to a party of golden youth in a dress from the mass market, it is unlikely to attract the attention of the prince. Another thing is Armani or Roberto Cavalli. That's just an expensive dress is not a guarantee of public attention.
Many women who can afford such things live without love. There are many men around them, but not one of them has sincere feelings.
Do not hope that the dress can change your life. This is just a wardrobe item, albeit bought for a lot of money.
6. Hard work is the key to success
Cinderella got her prince for working very hard. She served her stepmother and her half sisters, did the most dirty work. Be sure to talk this situation with your daughter.
Let her understand that the prince fell in love with Cinderella not at all for her work. Hard work and love have nothing in common. If a girl is hardworking, she may meet her love, or she may not meet. No need to make an idol out of Cinderella, the children are very suggestible.
In 10-15 years, your daughter will work for the good of some company, only the stepmother will be replaced by the director, and the sisters will be negligent colleagues. They will hang on her all the things that they don’t want to do themselves, and she will gladly shoulder such a burden. And she will be sure that a reward awaits her ahead.
5. Wedding - the beginning of a happy and carefree life
Have you ever wondered why all the fairy tales end with a wedding? The key phrase is "the tale ends." Girls believe that after the wedding Cinderella and the prince will heal “better than before”, they will be happy.
In fact, the authors do not want to devote children to the problems of misunderstanding of each other by spouses, family scandals and squabbles.
Just the girls should understand that after the wedding, life does not turn into a fairy tale. Will have to work on relationships, compromise, sometimes even give way to a man.
And to be honest, Cinderella can never be happy next to the prince. They have different upbringing, education, they are representatives of various social strata.
4. Any prince is love
This tale is the cause of many broken hopes. Women seek their prince, while they reject the courtship of those who are far from ideal. So you can stay with the old maid, but this is not the worst option.
Gorazd is worse when a woman takes for a "prince" any man who paid attention to her. She cares for him, forgives him everything. She is literally ready for him for anything.
It often happens that a woman does not even feel for him, she is deceiving herself, afraid to be alone. Not every relationship is love; many alliances are made for completely different reasons.
3. You can change in a second
In a fairy tale, the good fairy helps Cinderella change in one second. Then the girls go with the flow: they eat pastries and sweets, they don’t go in for sports, they don’t take care of skin and hair. They hope that someday later, they can change themselves in a short period of time.
Beautiful appearance does not appear from anywhere. If a girl wants to be beautiful, she will have to work hard. Proper nutrition, sports, skin care, beautiful makeup - that’s what will help any little girl to turn into a beauty, and not a fairy wand at all.
2. Beauty is the key to happiness
Having read “Cinderella”, the girls begin to think that only a beautiful woman can become happy. There are two scenarios.
If your daughter is beautiful, she will begin to be proud of herself, putting herself above the rest. In the future, she will have problems communicating with her peers. Nobody likes arrogant and arrogant persons.
If your daughter has a normal appearance, she will think that she will not be able to succeed, will become insecure, closed. In any case, in the future, the girl will pay too much attention to appearance, will not be interested in studying and career. Why, if everything can be achieved with the help of a pretty face and a beautiful body?
1. A miracle will always help
After reading this tale, a girl can take a passive position. Cinderella made no attempt to improve her life. The fairy had to do the main work, the prince also worked a little while he was looking for his beloved.
The girl will think that such behavior is the only true one. You can just go with the flow. No need to exert effort, set goals and achieve them. You can just sit and wait, hope for a miracle.
Unfortunately, in the modern world a miracle happens very rarely. Try to convey this truth to your child so that there are no bitter disappointments in the future.