All people are different. Some people give the impression of “closed” people, they don’t like talking about their personal lives, while others, on the contrary, tell everything to the smallest detail about themselves.
Of course, is it worth it to devote others to your personal life, everyone decides for himself. But only if you are a woman and work in a women's team, you won’t be able to avoid too personal questions.
There are two scenarios. Either you tell your whole biography and become “your”, or you joke, keep silent, but in this case, do not count on good relations with your colleagues. This principle works in all areas, not only in professional activities.
Do not succumb to provocations. Heart-to-heart talk is certainly good, only then can this information be used against you. Communicate with your friends on personal topics, and others do not need to know about some of your secrets.
Below are 10 secrets that smart women do not share. Save your reputation, never discuss these issues with unfamiliar people.
10. Complexes about their appearance
In the world there is no such woman who would be happy with her appearance. Wrinkles, a crooked nose, a big mouth, extra pounds are more than enough for discussion. Should I focus on my shortcomings?
Do not discuss yourself with other people, especially, do not indicate your imperfections in communication with the opposite sex. A man may not notice a couple of extra pounds or new wrinkles.
If you tell him about it, the partner will begin to think that you are imperfect. Something like this: “Yes, her waist is far from perfect. How have I not noticed before? Also these wrinkles. Can I search for another object of adoration, younger and prettier? ”
Emphasize your strengths and forget about the flaws.
9. Your experiences after breaking up with a man
When a woman is ill, she is ready to share her grief with the whole world. She will talk about reckless acts, persecution, revenge, tears. All this, of course, is very sad, but why is this information to surrounding people?
If you feel unwell, call your friend, consult a psychologist, no need to tell unfamiliar people about your experiences. Are you sure this information will remain between you? Few people know how to keep secrets; it may happen that everyone will know your secret soon.
Never talk about this topic when talking with men, especially if you really like one of them. A man will perceive you as an inadequate person who does not know how to control herself and does not want to have anything in common with you.
8. You are following someone online
You can often go to the page of your former partner, view photos of his new passion, and follow the man you like. No one can forbid you to do this, but keep this information secret.
It’s stupid to talk about someone’s life that interests you. There is definitely nothing to be proud of. It’s better to abandon this habit altogether, stop monitoring other people's lives. Spend this time profitably, take care of your life.
7. What do you still remember the former
A lot of time has passed, but you can’t forget your first love. Or the second, someone like that. You can share this secret with your best friend. With the rest, find another topic to talk about.
Do not talk about it with friends or relatives of the ex, even if you communicate well with them. They will definitely tell him about your experiences. This is useless.
If you have a new gentleman, the theme of the former is not something that needs to be discussed on dates. Do you even think that a man understands you, sympathizes with you, in the future this information will interfere with the development of your relationship. Never discuss ex with a new partner.
6. Your opinion about the relatives and friends of men
Again, if you want to build a happy relationship, do not criticize his relatives. Do not tell anyone that your man’s mother made a negative impression on you, and his friends are rude rude. Let it be a little secret.
Even a friend does not need to talk about it. You do not know how she relates to your gentleman. In any case, she will have a trump card against you, and what if she likes your lover?
Each person has his own shortcomings, maybe you also made a not very favorable impression on his relatives. For your own good, refrain from commenting.
5. Relationship Details
Many women do not know how to keep their mouths shut. Relations is a favorite topic that you can talk endlessly. Understand that others do not need to know the details of your personal life.
Quarrels, scandals, violent reconciliation - let all this remain between you and your man. If you can’t restrain yourself and you want to share your happiness with the whole world, you will soon become the object of gossip and ridicule.
4. The number of your sexual partners
You can name this figure only to your gynecologist. Others do not need this information. Girlfriends, friends, colleagues seem so sweet and kind. “They definitely won't tell anyone,” you think.
It is too personal intimate to bear on people. Of course, it is better not to discuss this topic with a new partner. It doesn't matter how many men you had before him. He will begin to think that you are comparing him to others.
For men, this is generally a sore subject. They are afraid to seem insolvent in sexual terms. You need to come to terms, because everyone has a past, and never again return to the discussion of this issue.
3. Your opinion on what you can do better
If you understand that you could handle a business much faster and better, take your time to help. It doesn’t matter what it is about: an important project or cleaning an apartment. But you also don’t like to be told “by the arm”? Let the person handle his duties.
The best thing you can do is keep silent. Otherwise, you will be perceived as a person who puts himself above others and shows off his achievements.
2. The size of your salary
This topic should not be discussed with anyone other than your husband. Of course, if you have a joint budget. Although even some husbands are not aware of their spouse's salary. Do not tell your friends, colleagues or acquaintances how much you receive.
Start discussing this topic, it turns out that you earn a little or too much. There will be envy, resentment. You will worry, feel insecure.
If your salary is several times greater than the salary of your friends and acquaintances, envy and gossip cannot be avoided. Money is not a good topic to talk about; talk better about weather, art, or travel.
1. Other secrets
If you were told something out of the ordinary (of course, in great secret), you can’t wait to tell others about this event. Do not do this. You risk spoiling the relationship with the person who shared the most intimate with you.
At the same time, people will start to distrust you. Yes, they gossip, discuss the situation, laugh, but try to remember that it’s better not to have anything to do with you. “Minute of Glory” will cost you dearly. You will ruin your reputation, soon people will stop trusting you.