If a man and a woman are happy in a relationship, they are unlikely to be visited by the thought that they need to control each other. Everyone else goes crazy with jealousy, checks phones, arrange surveillance.
Contrary to prevailing stereotypes, men give women much more freedom. Maybe this is because they feel more confident than women and do not look for flaws in themselves.
One way or another, men sometimes have a hard time. If a girl begins to doubt your loyalty or it seems to her that you are not paying enough attention, you can forget about a quiet life.
If you notice that a relationship with a loved one negatively affects your life, take a closer look at them. Perhaps your chosen one decided to subordinate you to her will.
Below are 10 signs that your girlfriend is in control of your life.
10. Has an unhealthy interest in your phone
The easiest way to understand that your chosen one is trying to control you, to pay attention to how she relates to your phone.
When you receive a message, it miraculously appears nearby. When you sit on social networks, your beloved funny cranes his neck and squinting his eyes, trying to figure out what you are doing there.
Yes, it may look funny, only you have to understand that it is a warning sign. Your girlfriend limits your freedom. Perhaps she checks your phone while you are sleeping or taking a shower. Even the most loving man will not like it.
9. She asks you about small details.
Everyone has the right to privacy, even if he is in a relationship. You can meet with friends, colleagues, relatives, but if after that a long interrogation awaits you, your impressions of your vacation will be spoiled.
For example, going to the cinema with a friend can result in a two-hour conversation with your chosen one. She will ask where and with whom you went, ask to show tickets and tell the plot of the film.
Do not succumb to provocations. Let your woman know that you should not report to her. You have the right to trust.
If a girl does not trust you, it means that she had problems in a past relationship, or you gave reason to doubt your fidelity. In the first case, a psychologist will help, and if you yourself are to blame for the fact that your beloved controls you, then only a frank conversation or separation will help.
8. Constantly suspects dishonesty
It is very disappointing when a loved one begins to suspect dishonesty. Of course, only if you are faithful to your beloved and do not think about treason.
You do not think about other women and you never cheat on your other half. If this is not about you, then in the status of a bachelor there will be much more advantages for you. Do not fool the poor thing, enjoy life, change girls like gloves. No one will spoil your nerves.
If you sincerely love her, then talk to your chosen one. Find out why she is behaving this way. Maybe she deceives you herself, and thus tries to protect herself.
7. Hates your hobbies
It is difficult to find a woman who would share male hobbies. Fishing, hunting, football. A beloved man is engaged in his hobby, instead of spending time with his chosen one.
Most women successfully pretend that they do not care. Some of them even express joy and support their beloved in all his endeavors.
If your girlfriend openly hates your hobbies, speaks unflattering about them, which means she wants to lock you up at home. She wants you to belong only to her.
This cannot go on for a lifetime. Everyone has the right to do what they love, and no one can forbid him from doing this.
6. Does not want to compromise
A girl who is trying to control her man does not want to compromise. This applies to serious issues, and minor minor matters.
For example, only she has the right to decide which movie you are watching today. She tries to impose a certain style of clothing on you, criticizes your hairstyle. She doesn't like your favorite music either.
If it continues in the same vein, soon you will have no more rights than a room dog or a fish in an aquarium.
Loving people come to common decisions, they do not try to change the appearance or character of the partner, do not impose their will on him.
5. Lowers your self-esteem
The most effective way to establish complete control over a partner is to make him feel worthless.
Your girlfriend regularly humiliates you, says that you are unworthy of her, and not a single normal woman will agree to meet with you.
There is only one way out - parting. It is not known what is in the head of your passion, but she certainly does not love you.
A woman in love looks at her partner from the bottom up, she admires and is proud of him. She will never affect the self-esteem of her chosen one.
By the way, this may manifest psychological dependence. The girl is trying to tie you to herself by any means.
4. Isolates you from your family and friends.
If it restricts your communication with relatives and friends, things are really bad.
It seems that this person has decided to seriously take control of you, not leaving you any chance to retreat. She wants to become the only loved one for you, so it will be much easier to control you. You will no longer be off the hook, you will have nowhere to go.
Such a woman can ruin your life. She can make your loved ones turn away from you.
If your chosen one does not allow you to communicate with relatives and friends, it is better to leave her right now.
3. Claims all your free time
Of course, when the relationship is just beginning, lovers want to spend more time with each other. If you have been dating for quite some time, and the situation has not changed, it's time to think about this issue. If this is only your desire, then everything is in order.
If your beloved forbids you to meet with friends, attend corporate events, go in for sports and other hobbies, then she has succeeded - she completely controls your life. It will only get worse. Assert your right to personal time.
2. Angry if you do not answer a call or message for a long time
If you couldn’t answer the phone or message, she is in for a huge scandal. Your chosen one does not care that at this moment you can put out a fire, take your grandmother across the road or lie on the operating table.
There are many different situations in life. An adequate person understands that a partner cannot always allocate time and talk with him, it’s not worth taking offense because of this.
If you are worried every time when you can’t pick up the phone, then you are very good at training. Change the situation urgently.
1. You no longer feel like an independent person
If a woman enthusiastically got down to business, most likely, she will succeed. Especially if the partner has warm feelings for her and believes in any of her words.
One day you will notice that you cannot even say the words with impunity, ignore your desires and you live at the direction of your beloved woman.
There is no question of any love and support. In such a situation, it is difficult to find a way out, but believe me, it is. Gather all your strength and leave this woman. You will also meet the one who will unselfishly love you and will not control your every move.